Collars
BDSM collars symbolise the bond between dominant and submissive. At Intimico you will find collars for play and everyday wear β from leather collars to subtle day collars. Safety, consent, and communication always come first.
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Frequently asked questions about Collars
A collar holds deep symbolic meaning in BDSM. It represents the bond between dominant and submissive and progresses through several stages:
- Collar of Consideration β the first stage. The dominant offers this when both parties are considering entering a D/s dynamic. Comparable to an exploratory phase
- Training Collar β the second stage. The submissive wears this while learning boundaries, preferences, and protocols. A phase of building and deepening the relationship
- Permanent Collar β the third and most serious stage. Comparable to a wedding ring β it symbolises a long-term, profound commitment
Offering and accepting a collar always happens on the basis of mutual consent. It is a personal choice with a meaning that varies between couples.
A proper fit is essential for comfort and safety. Follow the two-finger rule:
- 1Measure your neck circumference with a tape measure, just below the Adam's apple
- 2Add 2-3 cm β you should always be able to slide two fingers between the collar and your neck
- 3Verify that the collar does not pinch or press on the windpipe anywhere
| Neck circumference | Recommended size |
|---|---|
| 30 β 34 cm | Small |
| 34 β 38 cm | Medium |
| 38 β 42 cm | Large |
| 42+ cm | X-Large |
Adjustable collars with multiple holes offer the most flexibility. When in doubt, always choose the larger size β too tight is unsafe.
The neck is a vulnerable body part containing vital blood vessels and the windpipe. Safety is therefore non-negotiable:
- Never pull or yank a collar β sudden force on the neck can injure the spine, windpipe, or blood vessels
- Never use a collar as an anchor point for bondage that involves pulling forces. Use a body harness or chest restraint instead
- Choose a collar with a quick-release mechanism or breakaway point so it can be removed immediately in an emergency
- Never leave someone alone while their collar is attached to other restraints
- Check regularly for red marks, numbness, or breathing difficulties
A safe word or non-verbal stop signal is mandatory. When in doubt: remove the collar.
Day collars and play collars serve different purposes:
Day collar
A day collar is a subtle piece of jewellery that you can wear in everyday life without it being recognised as a BDSM accessory. Think of a delicate chain with a small padlock pendant, a sleek choker, or a bracelet. It symbolises the D/s bond for the wearer but looks like ordinary jewellery to others.
Play collar
A play collar is designed for use during BDSM sessions. It is usually wider, sturdier, and made from materials such as leather, faux leather, or metal. Play collars often feature D-rings for attaching a leash or light accessories.
Important: even with a play collar, never pull or yank it. The D-ring is intended for gentle guidance, not force.